15 SIGNS YOU HAVE HIGH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (PART 2)

When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding. People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly-held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.

5. You are a good judge of character

Much of high emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness, the ability to read other people, know what they are about, and understand what they are going through. Over time, this skill makes you an exceptional judge of character. People are no mystery to you. You know what they are all about and understand their motivations, even those that lie hidden beneath the surface.

6. You are difficult to offend

If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it is difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. High Emotional intelligence people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick kin. You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you are table to mentally draw the line between humor and degradation.
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7. You know how to say no (to yourself and others)

High emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control. You delay gratification and you avoid impulsive action. Research conducted at the University of California, San Francisco, and shows that the more difficulty that you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout and even depression. Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. “No” is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When It is time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I am not certain”. Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

8. You let go of mistakes

Emotional intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting the, By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to they are able to adapt and adjust for future success. It takes refined self-awareness to walk this tightrope between dwelling and remembering.

Dwelling too long on your mistakes makes you anxious and gun shy, while forgetting about them completely makes you bound to repeat them. The key to balance lies in your ability to transform failures into nuggets of improvement. This creates the tendency to get right back up every time you fall down.

9. You give and expect nothing in return

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression. For example, you might have an interesting conversation with someone about a book, and when you see them again a month later, you show up with the book in hand. High Emotional intelligence people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.